In Life’s Race…

In life’s race, you don’t stay ”in front” to win.
You stay ”on course” – On ”your” lane to obtain the prize.

In life’s race you don’t get disqualified for falling down.
You get disqualified for STAYING DOWN.

Life’s race requires more of STAMINA than SPEED – more of tenacity, persistence and staying power. Because Life’s race is more of a MARATHON than a SPRINT.

Life’s Race respects FOCUS over ABILITY, CLARITY over SKILL and DETERMINATION over STRENGTH.

In Life’s Race, you’re not competing against the other runners.
You’re competing against yourself AND Time.

So quit looking at the other runners, else you MISS YOUR STEP!

You will #SUCCEED.

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Listen to Yourself

A dying old man said to his doctor while on the sick bed ” Doctor, don’t worry. I know I am going to die. I didn’t want to come here but they brought me here.

Please don’t worry about me, look at my hair, they are gone. I am so old but you are so young. I have learnt a lot from life, if you don’t mind I will tell you some of them before I die.

When I was 4 years, I use to think the world is about me. When I turned 14, I wanted to rule the world. I thought I would be the greatest man that ever lived. When I was 21, I wanted to be the richest man, when I was 25, I wanted to find love, when I was 40, I wanted to be helpful to everyone. Now that I am here, I want to die. You see, I wanted so many things at so many times. Most importantly, I wanted to be happy. I thought the best way to be happy is to listen to others.

When I wanted to enter the University, I wanted to study Zoology but everyone said I should study Engineering that I will be a great Engineer. So I listened to them. I had no one to pay my fees, I had to work and also pay my fees. In my third year, I couldn’t cope with my studies, I had to drop. When I dropped, the same people told me “you should have studied Zoology”!

When I turned 28, everyone said I should marry. That I needed a wife. So I listened to them, I got married. 6 years into the marriage, I caught my wife sleeping with my neighbour. I asked her why and she slapped me. I was angry and didn’t say anything. The next day I returned from work, she had run away with my children, now I am dying a lonely man.

At 40, I got a huge contract. My name was in the news. The next day, all my friends and families were at my house, everyone had a serious problem. Within one week, I spent all the money on them with the promise that they will pay back. I could not complete the contract because they refused to return the money as promised. So I was sent to jail for 6 years. I stayed in jail and I came out. When I came out, they were nowhere.

There was one mistake I made through all this time. Now it is clear to me. Let me tell you about it. I refused to listen to myself. I ignored my own self and listen to others. Now that I am here the only person that is with me is myself.

You see, it is very good to listen to others. It is very wise to seek advice from others. But it is very dangerous to ignore your own self. It is very dangerous to refuse to pay attention to your heart.

When you get home this night, sit down, take a glass of water. Close your eyes if you want or open it if you want, then talk to yourself, reason with yourself. You can walk down the road alone and as you walk, begin to talk to yourself.

The only person that can overrule yourself is God, after God, listen to yourself next. I know it may not make sense to you now but always remember I told you LEARN TO LISTEN TO YOURSELF.

 

FIVE COMMON SENSE RULES FOR BEING A ‘CIVILIZED’ VISITOR.

 

It is often said that ‘common sense’ is not common. I agree. However, these are some basic rules we must obey to be regarded as ‘Civilized visitors’.

1. CALL before you go: Come on… We are in the 21st century. And it’s a mobile age. There’s just no reason to suddenly appear at the door of your host like the second coming of Christ. Make it a point of duty to call the person you’re going to see before going. Firstly, it saves you the disappointment of not meeting them and it also give them the room to prepare for your coming (IF they want you to come)

2. DO NOT Knock more than THREE times: Think about it… If they’re around, they should have heard your knock the first time, or the second time, or at least a third time just to be sure. So having knocked three times, it’s either they’re not around or they just don’t want to open (for reasons best known to them). So respect yourself and leave. Stop disturbing. (well, except it’s an emergency in which case you should knock even harder, or perhaps break the door.)

3. NEVER hang around private discussions for long: Ok… Let’s assume you missed the first rule and you went there without calling first only to meet your host having a PRIVATE meeting (or discussion) with someone else, or they may even have told you to come, yet you met this situation. PLEASE EXCUSE YOURSELF and leave. Offer to come another time or say you have somewhere else to be at the moment. But no matter what, don’t hang around. It makes everyone uncomfortable.

4. DO NOT feel at home: Yeah, I know many hosts will always tell you to ‘feel at home’. Trust me, most of them don’t really mean it. You are NOT at home. Always remember that. Retain an air of self-restrictions. Refrain from over indulgence (Especially in food and drinks) it reduces the respect of your host for you. There is a certain prestige and honour that comes with a simple ‘No, Thanks’.

5. Make it BRIEF and RARE: Now this rule doesn’t really apply so much with close friends and relatives. But it still applies all the same. DO NOT stay too long there. Even if they are not complaining, you should know that they have other things to do than to simply sit there chatting with you. Once you’re done with all the pleasantries and catching up, a few more minutes (or at most an hour) should suffice before you leave. Don’t over stay your welcome. And please make your visit rare also. Too many visitation within a short time makes you come off as a nuisance to your host. So make your presence rare and create some value for yourself.

If you have found this useful and true, please share.

Do Not Despair

And I heard “Sometimes, we make the wrong choices to get to the right place”.
Think about it, God really is not counting on us His Children to do all things right every time. He has a way of turning our broken pieces into a Master piece.

So just like ME, in case you’re wondering how your life is going to manifest the big dreams you’ve always had, I have this message for US.

● God is the author of Time, so don’t worry about your past.
● He is Alpha and Omega, so even the Future is in his hands.
● The Successes of others are not evidences of your Failure, so no need for comparisons.
● Begin now to Focus on WHO you truly are and What you ALREADY have (not who you’re not or what you don’t have.)
● With God, it’s never too late to fulfill Destiny. You just have to TRUST and WALK with Him. Moses (at 80) had a fresh start and made a trans-generational mark on humanity. (Remember Abraham also)

Yes, sometimes we make the wrong choices to get to the right place, not because the wrong choices were supposed to take us there, but because God can use both the good and the bad (right and wrong) and make it all work out for our good. It’s all part of His Grace.

So do not despair, because…
We Are Stars.
We Shine.

MIRROR IMAGE

Love your neighbour as yourself…
Thus goes the scriptures.
But what if that neighbour is myself,
An image of reflected pictures.

I looked at you and saw a most familiar face.
I listened to your words and heard the echo of my voice.
So I came to hold your hand and I felt my heart race.
Amidst confusing options, I took you for my choice.

Time and time again, discontented my mind was,
Yet to reject, my heart would not partake.
For when I tried, my back to turn against yours,
I saw myself as the image I forsake.

So here I stand looking into the mirror
Seeing your eyes staring back at me
And no matter what I see as a blemish or an error,
I am reminded that you are a part of me.

(C) Peter Akhere

Age And Wisdom

I have been young and I am still young

but the wise have taught me that wisdom is not a function of many years long.
That knowledge is not reflected in the grey scale of a man’s hair,

but in the quality of words proceeding from his tongue.

So make no assumptions – that the old is always right and the young is always wrong.
For if we would let Nature teach us, we could gain direction even by a bird’s song.

(C) Peter Akhere

 

My Discovery…

I have seen many days, I have seen many nights.
I have seen laughter, I have seen tears.
I have been happy, I have been sad.
I have experienced success, I have experienced failure too.
I have seen strangers become friends, I have seen friends become strangers.
I have enjoyed gains, I have suffered loses.
I have been up high, I have been down low…
But this indeed is what I have to say;

All things in life happen for a REASON. And every experience is but for a SEASON.
When the season is gone and the reason is learned, there comes about GROWTH. – A growth that can only be by CHANGE. A change that can only be WITHIN.

So whatever you are going through now, learn from the reason and live out the season. You are coming out stronger and better, PURER THAN GOLD… You will succeed!

~Peter Akhere~